DHARMA, TAKE THE WHEEL!
Recently I discovered in myself another quality of the Big Nerd: the desire to optimize the maximum number of processes in my life by tuning them, like a mechanism. This gives a general structure to what is happening, helps to track failures and deviations in the system (they become very visible against the backdrop of a regulated schedule or a systematic approach to the case), it helps to save time for all my affairs very noticeably, and retains the strength for making important decisions and unraveling arising problems.
Huh ... I do not know how the above is combined with the fact that I'm engaged in creativity. Obviously, this is one of my recent developments. Or the aggravation of the situation with a Big Nerd :) I do not know. I try, and everything else is nuances. So.
The scheme for solving problems for me is as follows:
— Drawing up a document, which I call «Minute of hate». In it I try to pour out my soul about the trouble that has arisen, and describe my feelings - anger, resentment, hatred, a desire to break into the office, knocking out the door and so on. When emotions are fully described and contained, I proceed to the next point.
— The list of what exactly does not suit me in what is happening or with what difficulties I encountered. It is important that all these items are broken down into specific topics of what is happening, and do not look like a flood from inadequate where mixed people, burning horses and galloping huts. For example, if I have problems with the publisher and, at the same time, with the defaulter on rent, I make two documents - separately for parsing with the publisher, separately - to understand what to do with the defaulter.
The meaning of the first two points: go from emotion to analysis, switching from one state to the one that is more suitable for solving the problem.
— Then i make an approximate outline of options to exit from the exciting situation. They are still a bit inaccurate, but they already show some constructiveness that helps me in the next paragraph:
— Forming an output in which I can more or less formulate my request. The request is a wish arising from the rejection of a situation that does not suit me and an acute desire to find a way out of the current state of affairs. When you come to a psychologist, one of the first questions he will ask you is: «What is your request?» You answer that you are worried, and at the end of the consultation you already see the goal, which is formed from the request with which you came.
— Formation of the goal. And this is a completely meaningful, concrete task, which has its own conditions, which presupposes the adoption of concrete measures for its solution.
— List of specific solutions to the problem. It is very different from the point with «approximate variants of the outline of solving the problem» because it is completely devoid of emotions and consists of logic.
— List of actions, indicating the specific dates and deadlines needed to solve the problem.
Next I take the planned steps, trying a scheme for vitality; I cross out the points that have already been executed and track what exactly brought me the expected result, and where was a new problematic moments. After drawing up the list of actions, it is very important to perform these actions without leaving current issues in limbo. An essential condition for the effectiveness is His Majesty the Follow-up Action.
I do not use this scheme in all cases. It's about really difficult situations, where I have an increased level of responsibility. For situations simpler, I only need a list of decision options and specific steps taken after.
The purpose of what is happening is to switch from the state in which I am guided by emotions to a state where I reason rationally by including that part of my body that must think - the head.
Why come up with such a complex system? In order to increase the number of good decisions in my life. After all, nothing so raises the mood as a series of normal, good or excellent decisions taken one after another.
The author of the illustration and the text — Olga Rukina.